The ‘hate’ word hasn’t been a part of my vocabulary for as long as I can remember, although I can find myself with an occasional slip! I don’t know why, but I have never been okay with the ‘hate’ word. Whenever I heard other people around me use it, it has just never felt good. I usually have the thought that it is a really strong word, extreme, and mostly unnecessary.

Last summer, I was at a funeral for my uncle who had passed away and I learned that he also had taught his family not to use the ‘hate’ word, saying that “a lot of people have been killed in the name of hate.” While that is one extreme way hate has been used, we may find it trivial to avoid using the ‘hate’ word when it comes to something like anchovies, a particular movie, or the traffic. However, words have energy and what we are doing with the amazing energy of Life that we get to direct and move in anyway we choose affects us.

Here’s Why:

  1. There is a technique, called muscle testing or applied kinesiology, that allows us to test whether something is true and good for us or not. The person being tested (the subject) will hold out their arm and the arm will be strong against another person trying to push the arm down (the tester) when the subject says things that are true, such as their name. Their arm will also stay strong when saying a positive word, such as love. In contrast, when the subject says negative words such as hate and war, the tester can easily push the subject’s arm down no matter how hard the subject tries to stay strong. This indicates that the words we use have an energy and it affects the strength of our own body. Therefore, the words we speak strengthen or weaken us, and thus will effect the integrity and wellness of our bodies. (For more information on muscle testing, check out one of my favorite books, Power Vs. Force by David Hawkins, MD PhD.)
  1. Studies of the effects of negative words we use and general negativity show increases in anxiety, depression, and muscle weakness, as well as decreases in immune function. Ewe, who wants that??!! Our brains literally get damaged and structures that regulate memory, feelings, and emotions don’t operate effectively. Further, researchers have reported negative effects on our sleep, our appetite, and our ability to experience long-term happiness and satisfaction.
  1. Testing of the effects of our thoughts and attitudes on water has been done by a Japanese scientist named Masaru Emoto. This is interesting!! Positive and lovely thoughts and attitudes cause the water structure under microscope to appear brilliant and form complex and colorful snowflake patterns. On the other hand, negative thoughts and attitudes cause the water to form incomplete, asymmetrical patterns with dull colors. (Adapted from this brief summary here:
    And, when it comes to our own body and wellness, our body is primarily water, so it is important for our wellness to be loving, positive, and accepting of our ourselves and others.
  1. Finally, getting a little Saint, Sage, and Mystic here… our most liberated, blissful, and peaceful potential is expressed as unconditional LOVE. We are energetically One with all that arises. That One Life is God and God is Love. So why condemn anyone or anything, including an anchovy?

Choose lovely words wisely and be the lovely Love that you are!